Spoiler Alert! The following post contains important details about the finale of Netflix season 3 “Love Is Blind”.
It’s a moment for the reality TV history books.
After becoming invisibly engaged and living together for four weeks, Love Is Blind contestant Zanab Jaffrey said “I don’t” to his fiancé Cole Barnett – but not without some stinging words about his apparent disrespect towards her.
During the third season of the Netflix dating show (all episodes are streaming now), Cole and Zanab repeatedly argued about how he had undermined her. Like the other couples on the show, Cole Zanab proposed after dating for about a week in the “pods,” small rooms where the candidates can only talk through walls. They then met in person and moved in together.
Shortly after their engagement, Cole flirted with actress Colleen Reed at a pool party, telling Zanab that she was less attractive than Colleen. Later in the season Just days before their wedding, Cole confronted Zanab about her apparent mood swings and asked her if she was “bipolar.”
So when it came time to get married, Zanab decided to confront Cole in front of all her friends and family.
“The last two months haven’t been perfect,” Zanab said at their wedding. “You didn’t respect me. You have insulted me. you criticized me And for what it’s worth, you single-handedly shook my confidence.
“And the bad thing is, I know I love you,” she continued. “But everything inside me and the logical part of my brain tells me that love shouldn’t feel like this. Love shouldn’t hurt like this. I can’t marry you and I won’t.”
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Zanab wanted to “believe” in her love story with Cole.
In an interview with USA TODAY ahead of the release of the season 3 finale on Wednesday, Zanab says she’s tried to have “numerous” conversations with Cole about his insensitive behavior.
In turn, “I was labeled as passive-aggressive, not cute enough, with a bad attitude — maybe even my sanity was questioned,” explains Zanab. And yet: “I wanted to believe in our love story and that we could go back to the man I fell in love with.”
On the morning of the wedding, Zanab didn’t know whether she would say yes or no to tie the knot.
“But as I looked at him and stood up[to the altar]I was like, ‘Wow, this guy must be listening to me up here. He will have to hear me. He can’t talk about me, he can’t fire me,” she says. “I took the opportunity to state facts. … And I wanted him to have a very clear understanding of why it was a ‘no’. ”
Despite appearing so succinct and confident when addressing Cole, Zanab says she never rehearsed her speech before the ceremony.
“We didn’t know who would be asked first (to say ‘yes’),” says Zanab. “I knew I wanted to be friendly, yet direct, and definitely let him know how our relationship with me was.”
Cole was ‘taken aback’ by Zanab’s speech but says they still ‘care for each other’
Zanab prevented their marriage before Cole had a chance to say “Yes, I do”. Even in hindsight, Cole isn’t sure what his answer would have been.
“I wanted to marry her so badly,” says Cole in an interview. “If she had said ‘yes’ I really felt like I would have said ‘yes’ too because we had reached the best point in our relationship. But looking back now, it’s hard for me to put into words where she was and how she felt. I was taken aback by the “no” and the magnitude of the “no”. ”
The former couple didn’t speak to each other for a “long time” after the planned wedding, Cole adds. But “now that we’ve seen each other and talked, we’ve really cleared the air. Our relationship is where it needs to be. We’re not romantic and we’re not that into each other anymore, but we do care about each other.”
Cole admits he was “too brutally honest” on Love Is Blind
Cole and Zanab weren’t alone in their unhappy relationship: Bartise and Nancy were ultimately not married, nor were SK and Raven. (Matt and Colleen and Brennon and Alexa were the only two couples to get married this season.) The exes say they’ve learned a lot about themselves — and each other — after watching Season 3.
“My worst moment was being completely naïve until the pool party,” says Zanab. “Knowing how that conversation went, and Cole’s (confessed) interview afterwards, where he said he was physically very much in love with Colleen and not me… I didn’t love it. It hurt. It still hurts a second (just watching).”
For his part, Cole learned that he needs to be “more careful” about what he says about other people — especially when there’s a camera pointed in his face.
“We were constantly asked how we felt about the other girls we were with (in the pods),” says Cole. “And then you see me flirting with Colleen and saying all these things about women, but I’ve been questioned about all these things (for the show). I should have just said, ‘I don’t want to answer those questions.’ But the bottom line is that I answered them – maybe a little too brutally honest at times, and it damaged my relationship.
“I shouldn’t have been so honest, but it’s part of this experiment, isn’t it?”
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